Lost In Translation

It’s cute how many people e-mail me often, asking if I can write about a specific subject. Some even giving me requests for subjects they wish I would write about. Hello, 16th Century, when blue-blooded people and rulers commissioned paintings from painters, or poems from poets… Ah, the fun. 

I would love to write on order, but unfortunately, I can’t. I can only write on reaction. Something has to move me; inspire me, anger me, or frustrate me, I just have to have a reaction to it. And writing is my way of dealing with the initial reaction, kind of settling the unsettling feeling in my mind. Having a voice about something that has to get out. 

So I apologize to all the people that asked me if I can write about love, Hollywood, relationships, or some movie or a tv-show you watched; I hope some of the subjects I do write about are going to be the ones you wanted to read about. 

You won’t agree with everything you’ll read here on my site, but if I can move one soul towards thinking about something they never thought about before, that’s enough for me.

What got a reaction out of me this time? Something I have a ton of experience with and something I see around me all the time, yet can’t seem to accept the world with it. I think I’ll probably be 80 and still write about it.

Media manipulation. 

Always the same. 

Everywhere you live, no matter what country or continent. People say I fight for the right of celebrities with my words, and that’s laughable. I fight for fairness. Any type of fairness. Equality, anywhere it can be achieved. 

Why would we lie about celebrities and make their lives miserable? Are we mad they have more money or better lives than the next person? They have a lot, therefore they haven’t got any feelings so we can just blatantly lie for clicks or clout? How can anyone in their right mind be fine supporting this? And many even participating in this?

Don’t let the instinct of hating something better, prettier, richer take over you. Think logically, calmly. Try to think why you hate, really?

The thing that angers me the most about media manipulation is creating a character trait of someone famous based on the feeling they have about the person. Your feeling about someone is based on your background, upbringing, and experiences in YOUR life. You create your opinions on people not based on facts or knowledge about them. Your feeling about someone is not valid.

“I feel so and so is very” ….. no. Stop. Your feeling about someone isn’t valid.

Jennifer Lopez is “controlling and nasty to employees”, Jessica Alba is “moody and unfriendly”, Jessica Simpson is “jealous and pathetic”, Brad Pitt is “so perfect”, and Angelina is a “bitchy and crazy”, I mean it’s always the same same same. 

Brad was never controlling, or an ass, he’s always just so cool, and Angelina is actually the bitchy one. I FEEL.

There’s always a close “source” or a “close pal” saying things publicly. Always an imaginary, abstract source. The non-existing one. Who the fuck is making all that shit up? 

But the most absurd media story is the one about the Beckhams. And I’m tired of a media narrative where guys in the public eye have it so much easier than women. It absolutely drives me insane. Especially when I see articles trashing women written by another woman.

Jealousy? Ego? Frustration with your own life? We can not be doing this. I can’t hear about this anymore.

Women being jealous of other women? We might as well roll back in time for about 200 years or so. Why are we doing this? How does hating someone else or disrespecting someone else help your life and your problems? The energy you put out is quite surely THE REASON why your life is not where you want it to be.

The other day, I read an entertainment blog and I see a Poll asking people to vote on the following:

What would Posh rather choose:

- her husband’s fidelity

- the cover of US Vogue??

Listen, I don’t have any obsessive adoration for this woman, but I do like her. I like her style, I like her attitude and she’s a significant part of my growing up. Having said that, I’m trying to be objective. But her media narrative is just too much. The way the press often disrespects her is, in my opinion, a drop over the edge of a glass.

For half of my life, I’m forced to read how this woman is “desperate, jealous, controlling, stupid, unhappy”, and how David is a “handsome, talented, great, happy, cool, a womanizer, the most wanted man” — and it always comes to the same conclusion — Victoria Beckham is “pathetic”, and David Beckham is “amazing”. 

And the only problem is — he should find “a better, cooler, happier, prettier” wife.

Give me a fucking break.

The poll I mentioned before is just so insulting, if I were her, I would find the person who wrote it and beat the shit out of them.

The second part of the poll — Victoria is “desperate to be on the Cover of American Vogue”? And who did she tell that, who did she confide in, the reporter? Did she ran around her house pulling her hair about the US Vogue, and later called the reporter to confess her specific Vouge related desperation? 

It’s not just the poll; generally, I’m really bothered by the public treatment of this woman. Why does everybody bully her so much? She is not bothering anyone, she is actually very self-deprecating when talking about herself, she said numerous times — she’s not that talented, but just ambitious. 

She’s even dignified when questionable women are trying to get with her husband, giving the most insulting interviews trying to tell us about their rachet encounters. Yet, you never see her talking any trash or insulting anyone, she’s never fighting in public, and never really reacted to anything written about her.

The public perception of this woman is that she is unrelaxed, bitchy, controlling, and pathetic, but what I see by her reactions is completely the opposite. This woman, given the circumstances of being married to one of the most wanted guys in the world, and the shit she has to put up with daily, everywhere she turns — is the coolest, most relaxed woman possible. 

Another annoyance of mine when it comes to Beckhams is the fact she never gets any credit for the Beckham Brand. It’s always — “he’s so cool, but she’s not that pretty, she’s too skinny and stupid” kind of bullshit, and I apologize to all you David Beckham fans, but there are no Beckhams without Posh. 

Not going into his soccer skills, but the branding. She’s the brains of their operation. Did you follow this guy before his marriage? It wouldn’t BE any David Beckham, the way you know him if it wasn’t for his wife, and I mean that in the nicest way possible. Did looks or attitude, just about everything about him was so basic and pedestrian before she came into his life.

And media? 

Always playing the opposite. 

The celeb that is actually crazy jealous, they say she’s the coolest. The guy that sleeps around, they say he’s the perfect example of a family man. Someone that is cool and relaxed is going to be mad jealous, and the guy that actually loves his wife will be caught staring at random asses.

And why should we care about media or celebs in these tough times, why do we care about them anyways? We don’t have to care about them, but they are a metaphor and the mirror of a fucked up society we live in at the moment.

Everything is just the opposite. Everything is just wrong. Everything is just unfair. Everything is just so alienated. Everything is just so manipulated. Everything is just so aggressive. Fake. Deceiving.

What’s good is bad, what’s bad is good, angels are demons and demons are angels, and welcome to Apocalypse now.

ENTER.

Or let’s try to be better human beings, for once.