The Lack of Conversation in The Conversation

Talk.

Let's talk about the talk for a second here, folks. Talk. Words. Conversation. I put a ton of stock into these 3 little things. Alarmingly, the current world doesn't. And I’m exhausted with it. Are you tired? You should be.

You should be tired of every single person that's not able to talk or text or communicate properly. You should be tired of every guy or a girl who’s constantly mute and can not respond to a text, a question, or pick up a call. You should be tired of everyone without the common courtesy to grant you the basics of human exchange. You should be tired of everyone that sees a challenging conversation as a confrontation and sees only mundane, superficial exchange as a conversation. You should be tired of everyone that tunes out when you have something emotional to say, of everyone that sees any type of talk as too demanding.

You should be tired of all of those people.

In recent months I dealt with people who create chaos on purpose but when called out on it - respond with: “You talk too much, shorten it a bit”, people who can not respond to a text properly because it’s too long (long because you're trying to deal with their transgression), who can not have a conversation because its too challenging (challenge they created), people who walk through life expecting verbal simplicity when they create emotional chaos around them.

Everyone who puts restrictions on words flowing freely in whatever capacity or intensity they need to flow to reach their destination - can cancel themselves. Out of my life.

I dealt with people who are late for meetings, dinners, appointments, or just meet-ups, canceling last minute but have some unbelievable nerve to get upset for you bringing it to their attention. “You are just too much, too intense (I absolutely hate this word), I need to take a break from this friendship”.

No responses.

And maybe a week later: “Sorry but you’re too intense for me and I got to work on ME “ - a slogan every loser on this planet uses to justify his/her incompetence and human decency.

Are these idiots aware THEY create issues you then need to be “intense” about and talk about it in order to solve it, fix it, understand it?

I dealt with a relationship this summer with someone so painfully unable to have a flow of conversation, but also creating problems, issues all the time, and when I would try to point it out to him his behaviour is uncool, I would've been meet with a - “Please don’t write me books”!

??

Our predecessors courted each other with poetry, prose, and meaningful conversations that changed lives and wrote history; what the hell happened to us? What happened that we are so dumbed down to only have the capacity for mundane chit-chats that mean absolutely nothing?

Instead of living off the words someone picked for you, told you, wrote to you; we can’t hear, we can’t listen, and we don’t have the capacity for one thing that makes life worth living.

All those that can't read your text, can't tell you how they feel, can't react when you contact them, blame you for talking too much when you want to express your want, need, happiness or sorrow; all those that put restrictions on your words, and decide for you how, where and how much you can talk - why are they in your life?

There is a quote from Californication that summarizes the whole point of why we occupy this planet:

"She said one thing, I said another. Next thing I knew, I wanted to spend the rest of my life in the middle of that conversation."

Not being able to communicate or thinking words are not that important, or are annoying, too much, too long, and unnecessary - it’s a disease we diligently need to surgically remove from our lives.