Love Is Kind?

God, I love Fall. I know you’re devastated about your Summer being over, but Fall has magic, people. Hot starry nights in the summertime make your heart skip a beat, but also - everyone’s all over the fucking place. Annoying! Summer is hard work, trying to gather everyone in one spot, see everyone, catch everyone; I like my people piled up. On a pile, I tell you. Easy accessible.

I like all the people I love where I can see them. All in one place. And Fall brings everyone back to the hub. Therefore, Fall is comforting, and putting that sweatshirt on, while shorts are still in season, come on. Tanned legs, jean shorts, sweatshirt, flip flops, tanned feet. Get out of here! I can conquer the world with that combo.

World-conquering apparel aside, I’m slightly delusional from the work I have piled up these last few weeks. However, I do feel bad opening my emails and reading all the stuff you send me, the main subject always being - can I write more often? It’s now 4:22 am in my time zone, and the optimist that I am, I took a 10-minute break to scribble this, work awaiting. This won’t be long, but I want to leave you with something before your weekend.

I heard this quote in some TV Show I watched a few weeks back.

Love is patient and kind, it’s not jealous or conceited or proud. Love is not ill-mattered or selfish or irritable. Love keeps no record of wrongs. Love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth.

Love is patient. And kind. And not conceited or proud.

Recently, all I hear from people around me is everyone fighting with their significant others, being frustrated left and right, finding excuses for the excess behaviors their partners expose them to. Seems to me it’s a constant grief, fighting, and forcing something that’s not going well. I feel like the whole world mistook passion for issues and fighting. Is anyone just happy anymore? If we constantly fight, we love each other, right? Emotions are supposed to be all over the place, right?

Guys, love is kind. Patient. Not conceited or proud.

And those stressful days you spend with your partners, if you are one of these people, it’s someone’s ego, not love. Love is kind. Why are we choosing to live in this constant drama? Better bad than nothing? But why would something bad be better than nothing? Nothing is great! Nothing is calm, nothing is a lot of drama-free time to achieve things, nothing is not looking at your phone, nothing is having time to discover yourself, nothing can be enjoying life without ego and stress and can lead you to the very right something that’s kind. And patient.

Love is not constant fighting, ego, jealousy, blood, tears, and drama. Love is kind. Imprint those words in your brain.

And it’s not just your partner that gives you grief, sometimes we are the partner that produces grief. You give grief too. I did. I had a great relationship but lots of issues with very different lifestyles. I had to leave him, I positively started to lose my mind. Only when I left, I understood the real meaning of love. The fighting disappeared, and when I moved away from him, only then, from a distance, when my heart calmed down, I could accept the things that bothered me, accept him the way he is. Sometimes you love people you can’t be with, and it’s important to realize that before we suffer or inflict suffering.

Love is not irritable or crazy, love is KIND.

Find the kind in you, in him, in her, or leave.

Find your kind.